I think one of the most solid lines from the Star Wars prequels is spoken by Yoda. When confronting a young Anakin, he asks if he’s afraid, Anakin responds and then Yoda says something akin to, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you.” People stress to much. Just as Master Yoda tells us, that leads down a rocky and ruined path.
Right now, my wife is stressing. She’s pregnant, having issues, babysitting her cousin’s child and dealing with other drama from people who can’t seem to pull their heads out of the old butt hole. I offer my cold, distant suggestions of what she could do, but they’re shot down as being to cruel. My dear wife is putting others before herself despite being in a position of potential danger to herself as well as our unborn child. I finally told her today that she needed to start taking care of herself and stop worrying about others at the moment. It might seem selfish, but so is ignoring the health of two people to make others more comfortable or happy.
Personally, I feel that you need to take care of yourself first. If you get run down, depressed or sick then you are of no good to anyone else. So while it may be nice and feel good to help others out, if you don’t take care of your own needs then you’ll be in no shape to do that. Start at home, start with number one. Everyone else can get in line and we’ll sort through them later when time permits.
The same principle can be applied to the world. The United States could stop sending billions of dollars over seas to help other countries and take care of their own problems first. We might be able to put a dent in that national debt, take care of our homeless, give our retired military the care they’ve earned and our senior citizens proper treatments. Worry about your own home first, then help others as you’re able to.
Stress just isn’t worth the journey it’ll start you on. That is a road best left untravelled. I still worry about things every now and then, but if given time it all tends to work itself out. I used to worry about things all the time. Not a moment would pass that something wasn’t lingering in the back of my mind and driving me crazy. All for the want of keeping others happy. But now, I’m about as cool as a cucumber, man.
Hopefully my wife will come around. She’ll either have to come around or break under the stress. So any prayers or good thoughts directed her way would be greatly appreciated. 🙂
Have a good weekend!
Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. I sense much fear in you.